Rape and Abuse

Rape and abuse is horrifying and weakening to victims. It is imperative to deal with the emotional scars as soon as possible after the event. However it is never too late to seek help and support, so please contact me to set up an appointment.


Rape is an act of violence by one person on another and is sexual in nature. The victim is penetrated by an object, penis, hand or tongue it can be in the vagina or anal area without giving consent. It affects people of all ages and genders. As a counsellor I am there for you to be able to talk to and open up about the rape and deal with the emotions that can be overwhelming. Additionally we can work together to develop coping skills.

Rape is not your fault!

Raped and abused

This may have only occurred once, but there can be multiple effects on your body and your emotional state. These effects can be immediate or the effects can be suppressed for days, months or even years. As such it’s important to know how you may be affected.

Physical effects:

  • Injuries, bleeding and bruising
  • Pain in the area that has been penetrated
  • One may experience vomiting
  • Headaches
  • Hypervigilance (always being “on your guard”)
  • Insomnia

  • Jumpiness (on edge)
  • Panic attacks (shortness of breath, feeling as though someone is on your chest)
  • Weight loss or gain
  • Hurting oneself

Emotional and psychological effects:

  • Shock and denial
  • Irritability and anger
  • Depression
  • Social withdrawal
  • Numbing or apathy (detachment, loss of caring)
  • Restricted affect (reduced ability to express emotions)
  • Nightmares and flashbacks
  • Difficulty concentrating
  • Diminished interest in activities or sex
  • Loss of self-esteem
  • Loss of security or loss of trust in others
  • Guilt, shame and embarrassment
  • Impaired memory
  • Loss of appetite
  • Suicidal thoughts
  • Substance Abuse
  • Psychological disorder (such as depression)


Everybody can fall victim to some type of abuse whether it be physical, sexual or emotional. This abuse takes a toll on a person and their psyche. Therefore it is vital that everyone knows their rights and receive medical treatment as well as counselling.

Some forms of abuse:

  • Emotional – My friends call me fat or ugly.
  • Physical – Everytime my dad drinks he hits me.
  • Sexual – He says its ok, or he will kill me if I talk about it.
  • Basic Human Rights – Such as being starved or locked up.